October 13, 2025
Check your Ego
One of the most common failures I witness in my own life is a projection of my own failures.
This can be captured when I choose to pass judgement on other people for their own choices.
Oftentimes, what I have observed at least, this is a direct result of the amount of time I spend doom scrolling social media.
Since May of 2025, I have been documenting my emotional state at the start and the end of each day.
Then, I take the time to ask myself, “what did I spend my time doing today that could impact that?”
The one correlation I have found regarding anger, anxiety, and fear is a result of the time I spend on social media.
This is an ego filled environment that fosters judgement and envy and causes me to look at my life as a failure in the areas that social media deemed fit to show me.
Now, many of you may chuckle at this but I ask you, when was the last time you took account of your own ego and your emotional state and asked yourself a similar question.
It is fascinating to me that for the better part of two decades we are now allowing a screen and a manufactured environment to tell us what our dreams are and what we should be doing with our lives.
When I was a child, I have memories of my parents asking me what I wanted to be when I grew up.
Answers would range from life experience.
At one point I wanted to be a marine biologist just so I could swim with Shamu at Sea World (that aged well after Blackfish right? hahaha)
Regardless…we were encouraged to dream from lived experience, not from manufactured crap.
So, as I have taken account for the last few months I have walked away with two crucial observations.
First, not every person is on the same path as you. (yes we are on the path to death, judgement, Heaven or Hell but how we arrive there is what I am talking about)
And second, not everyone is going to want the same thing you want.
Recognizing these two points has helped me to better understand my community and also engage in a purposeful way that has allowed me to actually serve the people that want help as opposed to convincing everyone they need help.
This has also helped me to better analyze myself and the habits I am cultivating on a daily basis.
Instead of focusing on what everyone else is doing with their lives, I have decided to stand in front of my mirror and ask myself “are the habits I am performing today cultivating the vocation that God has given me as a Man, Husband, Father and Doctor?”
To be totally transparent, I fail more times than I succeed.
But that is where we learn right?
The ego is checked by diligent scrutiny.
Stop judging everyone else and face your own mirror.
Cultivate your own vision.
Check the ego.
