October 20th, 2025
A common motivational poster quotes the idea that you are the product of the five people you spend your time with the most.
I like to refer to this as your circle of power.
These five people can be your friends, your family, your social media presence, the list of opportunities to assess your circle of power is endless.
What is important in this exercise is recognizing how that circle of power is impacting your life.
You see, as human beings we like routine and consistency.
Very rarely do we break from our daily habits until it is called to our attention.
I believe that the circle of power is one of these arenas that needs to be closely observed and monitored.
If the five people you speak with the most are toxic vampires that consistently judge people and bring negative energy into your life, you will quickly realize that your battery is drained more often than not.
You might also start to realize that all of the anger, judgement, envy, lust, sloth and habitual gluttony that have infiltrated your day to day life may be a result of those very people you surround yourself with.
That is a hard self reflection isn’t it?
What I have learned over the years is when we consider the 5 people we spend the most time with, it also exposes the 5 people we don’t spend enough time with.
This can be a rather raw process to grow through but it is a process that I think we all need to reflect upon.
For most of us, depending upon where you are in your life journey, the immediate thought goes to our friend circle.
If you are married, one of those 5 might be your spouse OR it might expose the fact that the reason your marriage is trash is because your spouse isn’t in your top 5.
If you have children..
If you are a business owner…
The examples I can generate are endless.
What matters most in this is taking the time to consider the relationships in every single facet of your life you choose to surround yourself with.
One thing I have learned in all of this is that toxic relationships are the number one barrier to keeping you from fulfilling your vocation.
Said another way, the longer you surround yourself with relationships that are counterproductive to your big vision goals, the longer you’ll stay far away from where you are trying to go or who you are trying to become.
Take the time to evaluate your circle of power.
If it is empty, it’s time to change the circle.
