December 22, 2025
When I first opened a business, one of the suggestions a mentor gave me was to join support groups for the various illnesses we would help people overcome.
His suggestion was good hearted in that the focus was on gaining an understanding of the cross the patients carried in their journey as they navigated these diseases.
However, I quickly learned that these support groups were a constant power struggle of who had it the worst.
No matter how bad someone had it in their journey of navigating their way through a disease, someone in the group always seemed to have it worse.
This wasn’t a support group.
It was an empathy group for those who were seeking affirmation to continue to carry a cross that may not be necessary.
Their mindset was one of victimhood.
Let me be the first to tell you that I have been in that contest in my own unique health challenges and no one comes out a winner.
In fact, there is zero, and I mean absolutely zero nobility in embracing the narrative of perpetual victimhood.
When your disease has become your identity it is time for a hard reset on how you are viewing life.
Listen, I know bad things happen and some crosses are heavier than others, but what happens between your two ears is 99% certain to impact how you choose to carry it.
You are not your diagnosis.
You are not your latest MRI.
You are not your x-ray or your arthritis.
As much as the media wants to scare you into another unnecessary prescription or medical intervention, I am here today to tell you to turn that noise off.
That channel needs to be permanently unplugged.
If you find yourself in the perpetual victimhood relationship, group, mentorship, etc then it’s time to reconsider and change your trajectory.
What I have observed in my short 10 years in practice is a true difference in those who succeed and those who stay stuck in the victim doom loop.
Want to know what the difference is: how they nourish what happens between their ears.
Those who don’t achieve their desired results treat every single doctor as their idol and their savior and they expect every intervention to cure their terrible life habits with zero accountability, surrendering their entire accumulated life of poor decisions to an adjustment or to a prescription or to a surgery without owning their mind, body, and spirit.
Those who succeed are the exact opposite.
They are warriors who are confident in who they are and the direction they are going, constantly seeking to push the envelope in every single habit of their life.
They have a vision they have crafted and they are going to stop at nothing to make sure that they see it through.
Will they have set backs along the way – absolutely – the human system is not permanent, it is constantly changing.
But they do not let a setback determine their identity and knock them off course.
People who truly seek to take control of their health rarely submit to the medical industry of the west.
Instead they choose who they engage with and how they engage with based upon the progress they are making in reclaiming their health.
They don’t chase the dip to the bottom trying to catch the metaphorical knife.
They know their story, they own their story and they share how they worked their ass off to overcome it.
The story that needs to be told to shake this identity crisis we are facing as a nation as it relates to our chronic disease epidemic is a story of empowerment and courage.
It is a hero’s journey of reclaiming what was God given in the first place and shutting out the noise of the mainstream media whether right, left or moderate.
The true narrative is the one that involves you, traveling through life, shutting out the “support group” and navigating the trials of life with the knowledge that the most simple habits are the ones that yield the greatest fruit over time.
So the next time you are feeling sorry for yourself and want to jump on a facebook group and air out your dirty laundry, pause and ask yourself if this will actually help you achieve what you envision your life to look like?
More often than not this annoying noisy thought needs to get squashed and you need to get back to work owning your story.
This is the secret to breaking our identity crisis and reclaiming hope.
